Where To Meet Women: The Ultimate Guide [50 Best Places]

Where to meet women? The quick and easy answer is anywhere. If you see a cute girl out of the corner of your eyes, then go approach. Wherever you are. Even if the girl is with her friends. Do this before you think of any excuses. However, there is also a much longer answer to this question (5400 words to be exact). The long answer, below, is even more interesting.

The Park

Especially in Summer, parks are a very nice place to hang out, even if you’re on your own. Go for a walk or read a book in a park. The girls are outside and quite open to being social and friendly (even if they don’t necessarily want to date you). In Winter, you may freeze your ass off. The only negative is sometimes in the Third World, there can be vagrants and beggars. In that case, it’s not the best park to pickup girls.

Drawbacks of parks: Boredom. Low density. Third World parks can be dangerous.

Positives: It’s a relaxing, healthy environment. Get some Vitamin D which boosts your immune system. It’s good for meditation, and meeting people.

Shopping Mall

Shopping malls are notoriously good places to meet women. In some feminist societies they’re becoming very strict in malls. Thus, they may consider you a nuisance if you try to approach too many women in too short a space of time. I’m not referring to approaching 3 or 4 girls. But this can happen if you approach e.g. 20 girls in 30 minutes in the same mall. Unless you’re smooth.

When I was relatively new to game, I took a boot camp with a young coach in his early twenties. He sent me to approach women talking on their phones in a shopping mall. The challenge was to interrupt these girls and then ask her phone number. It went O.K. for a while. I didn’t immediately get any numbers, but there was another problem.

The mall security took note that I was approaching girls on their phone. Next, a man with a hand baton and walkie talkie started following me around in the mall. As soon as I became certain that this was in fact the case, I slipped away into a clothing shop. I stayed there for a while, tried on some clothes, then left the mall.

To specifically approach every girl who is having a phone conversation is not that smart. Especially if there are also many girls around who are not on their phones. Obviously you’re gonna get kicked out from malls if you veer on the side of being too obnoxious. I came within hair-breadth of being kicked out, as I almost did that “one extra” approach, right in front of the mall security. This would’ve been one too many.

HOWEVER, 90%+ of the time, while talking to girls in a shopping mall, if you do it in a respectable way, you won’t get any problems (you may get consensual bangs and lays though). Talking, flirting, and bantering is good. The girls don’t mind, especially if you looksmax and work on your appearance. Groping is strongly discouraged though, and don’t make too obvious a nuisance of yourself in any way.

Church Meetings

Especially if you are looking for a girl of a similar faith, church can be a great place to meet a girlfriend. Obviously, don’t be super direct in church. But if you can be respectful in a church environment, you could even meet your wife that way. Because it’s often marriage minded girls who go to church.

Avoid over-aggression. Be friendly. To an onlooker, it could appear like you’re simply talking to an old friend. Try the tea station after the service. Otherwise, before the church service start a conversation wherever people are standing around. Conclude the interaction by taking her phone number, then date and see where it leads.

Grocery Stores

This is a good place to meet girls, since they can be more chilled out in a grocery store. They’re usually not in too much in a hurry to go anywhere.

You can even pick a specific grocery store depending on what food you like. Then meet a girl who likes similar food. For example, for Asian girls go to the Asian supermarket. For wholesome girls, go to the healthy food market.

You don’t need to fake anything in the grocery store. Tell the girl what you’re doing there, if she asks. For example, you’re buying dinner or food for the next week.

If you have stuff in your grocery store cart, that’s cool. It can be a discussion topic. For example: “Look at this stuff I bought. Do you also like this brand of food? I see you’ve got a different brand there in your cart. Do you really think your brand is better than my brand?”

Library Or Bookstore

Here you can meet bookworm type girls who likes reading. These girls tend to be intelligent, educated and interesting. So if you’re into reading, go to a library. To further fine tune this: Go to the specific bookstore section that you like to read. If you want to meet a girl who is into psychology, then go to the psychology section. A girl into traveling, then approach a girl in the traveling section.

Of course, don’t hassle girls if they’re not interested. Be socially calibrated to her reaction, and read her social cues – a skill you can gradually develop. See if the girl is interested in talking with you and then ask her phone number.

Meet Women At The Gym

The gym is a great place to meet fit girls, especially if you’re also passionate about fitness. Once again, be calibrated. A gym owner told me about his fitness trainers who used to hit on every girl in the gym. This was irritating the girls since these guys weren’t smooth. Thus, he lost female clients. He ended up firing those trainers.

Then at another gym, I had this really smooth trainer. All the girls loved him. He was calibrated, complemented women at the right times. Not in a sexual way, but encouraging the girls with their workouts. If you can be this guy instead at the gym, then people will value you being there. Once in a while you ask the girl “OK, now what’s your phone number? Let’s grab a coffee sometime or a drink”.

Thus as a regular, you’re not just there to hit on every random girl out of the blue. You also want to get to know the girl a bit. Possibly even help her with her workout. Break the ice first, test her interest with a conversation, then ask her phone number.

If you’re only visiting the gym as a client, you can get away with flirting with all the girls even if you’re not the smoothest guy (especially while traveling in different cities). But if you are a fitness trainer, you’ll definitely need good game to protect your career.

Spectator Sports Events

This one’s for the guys who love watching sport. This can be rugby, football, baseball, basketball, tennis, or whatever. You’ll meet girls who like the same sport as you do.

I’m not much of a spectator in sports. Thus, this is not one of my favorite ways of meeting women. I prefer being a participant.

But it’s the same technique: Be social, calibrated, friendly and assertive by asking for the number or instant-date. Merge her group of friends with yours, if logistically possible.

Nightclubs

Women don’t go to nightclubs only for the alcohol and dancing. Women go to dance- and nightclubs to meet guys. Often girls also use words like “game”. For example: “We’re going gaming at a dance club. But first we’re going pre-gaming for beers.” However, women tend to be less obvious about gaming. Still, nightclubs are such a great place to meet girls, that there’s a whole section of seduction devoted towards this, namely Nightgame (I discuss nightgame in my e-book: Good With Women).

Meeting Girls At Bars

Bars are another great place to meet women, especially at night. Obviously women also go to bars to meet men. Thus, if a girl is in a bar and you start a conversation, there’s a good chance the conversation may go somewhere.

If she’s there with her boyfriend, then look for a single girl instead. It could however simply be a beta-male orbiter, or gay friend. Or maybe she has a tinder date with that guy, and its the first time they meet. In that case, you could still hook up with her later that night if she likes you more. Thus, you can’t assume every guy she’s with is her boyfriend.

By befriending and disarming her friends, and showing them you’re a normal cool guy, you can take her home or get her number.

In small towns there’s maybe one or two bars. It’s the only option at night to meet people. In that case, relax, stay planted at the same venue, and branch out socially in the bar. There might be tables of people socializing in friendship circles. Befriend those social circles. Get to know and party with everyone during the course of the night.

Concerts

Concerts are not always that good for meeting women, because everyone’s usually very engaged to the music. While listening to the music, they’re often not as open to conversations and approaches. Thus I prefer nightclubs instead of concerts.

However, if you’re into a similar style of music, you can still meet a girl at a concert. For example, before or after the DJ / band plays. It’s easy to meet women before or after, whenever they are not deeply engaged with the music.

Art classes

If you’re into any form of art, this is a good way of meeting people. Because you are forced in that small room to do art together. Whatever the art-form is. Get to know a cute class-mate and take her out for food or drink after class. You already have one hobby in common, and who knows what else…

Sport Classes

This can be fitness classes, including CrossFit, martial arts, boxing or whatever. Nowadays sport classes are often unisex, which is ideal. It’s always nice to meet physically active girls (without thick thighs and large butts). Before or after the sport-class is the best time for a conversation.

Academic Classes

Attending academic classes is one of the best and easiest places on this list to meet women. Almost everyone wants to network and branch out socially in academic classes. They want to get to know their classmates. It’s in their best interest, as they can help each-other with homework and test preparation. Plus, you have a lot in common with your class mates simply through taking the same class. You score some bonus points this way, and it allows for a strong connection.

Make use of academic classes, and definitely accumulate phone numbers.

Where-ever you stay

Go for a walk around your house or in your neighborhood. Or maybe there’s a few cute girls living in your apartment building. When you walk into a girl, say hello and start a conversation. As it stands, you have a lot in common, since you live in the same area or building. Even if you don’t have sex with or date that specific girl, you may hookup with her friends instead. Thus keep an open positive mind. Living close to somebody makes logistics very easy.

Hiking

Going hiking with girls is great. However, you could also hike with male friends or on your own, then meet women along the route. As an opening line, ask for information about the hiking path. Otherwise ask or cold-read what their plans are for their hike. For example: “You look like you’re also heading up to Table Mountain”. Or try humor: “Let’s see who gets to the top first!” … “We’ll beat you to the top …kidding, my name is Guy, what’s yours?”

Then take down a phone number or hike together. Get to know the girls along the way. In which case the hike becomes like a mini-date or instant-date.

Of course, hiking in a very secluded area won’t help you meet girls. In that case, join hiking communities to mingle with girls of similar interests.

Social Get Togethers

Whenever there’s an opportunity to socialize, it’s always a good opportunity to meet women. Get to know whomever is attending the get-together. Some of these new social connections may then invite you to another party. We call this “social-circle game” in the seduction community.

Social get-togethers can be in town, at a friends house, at a bar or wherever. Partake in social get-togethers and establish common interests. You’re not going to have a lot in common with everyone there. Some people will give you bad vibes, and some good vibes. Stick to those you get good vibes from. That’s how you make friends and build up your friends circle.

Apps like meetup.com helps you find random get-togethers, especially in larger cities, and make a few good friends. Take their details, and keep in contact to keep your relationships alive.

Women often go to meetups to meet guys. But it’s not a nightclub where you dance with women and get crazy with them on a dance floor. At least, not immediately. You can always go dancing after your initial meetup. Keep common sense in mind. Then take things forward by getting her phone number or getting to know her, patiently leading it to the bedroom.

Couchsurfing

Couchsurfing has its own meetups, which is called hangouts. If its a bad gender ratio, then you’re not going to go to that hangout specifically to meet women. Rather to meet a new wingman. Couchsurfing also has an useful activity section which lists upcoming meetups.

Of course, the main use of Couchsurfing is to stay with people wherever you travel (or let them stay with you). When staying with women, not all girls will have sex with you. Many women simply focus on networking and building a positive reputation within the couchsurfing community. So it’s a skill to try and figure out beforehand which girls look DTF.

Yoga Class

There are always way more girls than guys at yoga class, thus it’s a nice place to meet women. The better you are in yoga, the easier it’ll be to click with the yoga girls. If you suck in yoga, you’re not going to score any bonus points by doing a handstand and walking around on your hands in the class. However, you could also up your Sexual Market Value in another way e.g. with good looks, or being the friendly social fun guy.

Yoga instructors are in a position of authority, which by itself can turn women on… Thus, your female yoga students will look up to you. Use this authority wisely.

In general, be calibrated, and don’t hit on every girl in your class. Unless you’re smooth. Otherwise, be the ladies man. This guy flirts, instead of simply making crude remarks. He banters, has conversations, smiles, and progresses more naturally. It’s almost invisible to the outsider, to whom it looks like he’s simply being social. But in reality, he’s picking up a girl, albeit in a very subtle way.

In sensitive environments like yoga class, women are more skimpily dressed with their asses up in the air doing positions like downward dogs. Thus, you have to be subtle. But there’s no reason to metaphorically cut off your dick and not approach, either.

Clothing Stores

Obviously in female clothing stores, you’ll meet a lot more women than in male clothing stores. If it’s a unisex store, you could shop for your own clothes, as well as meeting girls along the way.

You’ll meet high-maintenance women in expensive designer clothing stores, so be aware of what you’re getting yourself into. However, if it’s down-to-earth clothing, e.g. a vintage clothes market, you’ll meet more regular chilled stylish girls. These women care about their appearance, they want to look good. Thus there is also less chance they’ll be fat or obese.

There’s also the shop assistants that are paid to be nice to you. We call them hired guns. Not every shop assistant will give you her phone number, but you can definitely try.

As opening line, ask for fashion advice, or give playful tips about a dress the girl is trying on, and maybe you’ll get her phone number. With these two Asian girls below you could say something like: “This earring over there, I think I can attach it to my fishing line as fish bait, and this one there would make a nice hook for the line”… Lol, well my point is you could say anything as opening line.

Dance class

Dance classes are notoriously great places to meet women. I’d say it’s one of the top five places in this list. These classes are often frequented by young single women who don’t have dance partners. Obviously those girls are especially open to meet a guy. This is usually the second reason they go to dance class, apart from learning to dance. If the girl is on her own in a dance class, it means she’s probably single. Flirt and take down her phone number.

Furthermore, these girls have moves (some argue how you dance is often very telling of how you’ll have sex). The girls are usually in good shape and tend to be healthy natural wholesome girls. Because they want to learn classier dances instead of going to a nightclub and getting wasted. They want some method to their dancing because they don’t just get drunk in a club.

If you’re a heavy drinker, you’ll do better in a nightclub because you’ll have more in common with those girls. But if you don’t drink, you’ll likely do better in a dance class. For example, a salsa dance class or ballroom dancing. Because that’s a more sober environment to pick up girls.

Public Speaking

Push your comfort zone by doing public speaking. Toastmasters is one such organization that facilitates public speaking. Moreover, at toastmasters they often have dinner together. Talk to the attractive girls after and before class and get their phone numbers.

If a girl does a speech and afterwards she sprints home immediately. It’s usually because she has a boyfriend back home. She’s not that keen on meeting people. But definitely socialize with the girls who stay behind. They’re open to meeting people.

Improv class

While you’re busy improvising, why not improvise a cold approach and ask a cute girl’s phone number? These girls are usually very social. Understand that social girls get sex quite easily, anyway. Thus don’t expect every girl at improv to give you her phone number.

But if you’re also a social guy, you could become part of each other’s “rotations”. There may also be a few relationship-minded girls at improv class, and you could be an improv couple.

Either way, it’s a pretty cool hobby and it’s helpful for meeting women. It makes you more spontaneous. It lowers your conversational filter so that you can basically say whatever you want. It’ll make you a more attractive guy whether you meet any girls there or not.

Conferences or Seminars

If it’s academic conference, you’ll have your status as an academic. Maybe you have a master’s degree or PhD. Women respect that. Some bonus points for you.

It could also be a normal conference, e.g. you’re into fitness so you go to a fitness conference. Maybe you’re into fashion, photography or video games. You get conferences for those things as well. So you will meet girls of similar interests. Which is always great. You often click better with those who have similar interests.

Street Game

In the daytime, it’s easy to meet girls walking in the street. Sometimes they walk very fast. They’re on their way somewhere and maybe in a hurry. In that case you can still try an approach, but it’s less likely to go somewhere. But if the girl is walking slowly or at a similar pace then start a conversation. I’ve met many girls that way, and we had great dates.

You’ll throw away a lot of good dates if you don’t meet girls on the street. Of course don’t engage in wolf-whistling or cat-calling, as that’s not seduction. Seduction is a smooth process. E.g. “Hi. Where you from” or “you look like you are from Germany” … “And those boots you’re wearing, it appears you’re coming from a fashion show”. Or “you could probably ride a horse with those boots”. Improvise any opener: Direct or Indirect. Throw the word “silly” out of your vocab when you’re trying to find an opener. Because anything goes.

Sometimes you can fake asking directions. Other times you really want directions, so you don’t always have to fake it.

Improvise something about how she looks, how she dresses or about what she does there. For example: “You look like a tourist with your camera around your neck. Did you take any good photos today?” You don’t have to be witty. It can help, but authenticity is more important than being a comedian.

Farmers Markets

This is one of my own favorite places to meet women, because I prefer eating healthier food straight from the farm. Thus, I have something in common with those women before I even go there. If this is you, then make this one of your own top places to meet girls as well.

Group Language classes

You and the girl can practice learning language together, both during the class and afterwards. You have a common goal of learning that language. Listen to songs and watch movies together in the target language. On date-night, go to a restaurant from that region.

Museums

This is a nice place to meet girls into science or history, depending what kinda museum it is. Girls are usually relaxed at museums, and often on holiday. Thus, there’s plenty of time to start a conversation, and get a coffee at the museum coffee shop. Of course, you don’t wanna bore yourself to death. Thus pick a museum you’re also interested in.

Restaurants

Choose for example a vegan or ethnic restaurant, depending on which type of girl or ethnicity you want to meet. Of course, flirt with the waitress as well. Otherwise walk up to another table where a girl is sitting, and start a conversation. Join tables if you get good vibes, or get her phone number.

Beach

You could also try a communal swimming pool if you don’t live close to a beach. But otherwise beach is a great place to meet girls, and surely in the top 5 on this list. You see the girl’s body upfront, and she sees yours. Thus you can screen each-other out very quickly, if needed.

Beaches are a reasonably social environment. Single girls want to meet hot guys at the beach. I could mention a few cities like Rio, Cape Town, Miami, or Barcelona, but any beach will do, as long as it isn’t empty. Picking girls up at the beach is similar to anywhere else by day. However, it can take some getting used to if you’re completely new to beach game.

Hostels

Hostels are such an obvious great place to meet women, that I wrote a whole article about meeting girls in hostels. This includes the cute female staff. Overall, hostels are a very social atmosphere. It’s easy to start conversations, and spend time together with girls you meet there. The only negative is that you don’t have as much privacy if you sleep in a hostel dorm.

Meeting Women At Work

It’s safer to do indirect approaches at work, as opposed to being very direct (e.g. telling your co-worker: you’re so sexy). However, it also depends on how cool your boss is, and in which country you’re in.

You have a lot in common with the women at your job, simply due to the fact that you have the same employer. If you hit it off, you can basically move in together and share a car or commute to work. You’ll be more or less together the whole day. It’s no surprise that many marriages originate in the work environment.

Travel activities

While traveling do as much activities as you can e.g. free walking tours. This way you’re guaranteed to meet cute girls and even wingmen. Take down a few phone numbers during each activity. Or schedule something immediately with a girl for the same night or after your free walking tour.

Spa or sauna

This is a good place to meet health-minded girls, who are usually in great shape. It’s not the most social place generally. But some spa’s do have bars. Hang around the bar area to meet a few girls.

Fitness Races

Do bring your dick along when participating in races like Endurance running, Obstacle Course Racing, or the Crossfit championship. If you compete professionally, leave the flirting to after the race. But otherwise, why not during?

Dating apps

There are different kind of dating apps: Some are better for relationships, others for hookups. Since this post is rather about meeting women in person, we won’t go into any greater depth here. Check out apps like Tinder / Happn / VictoriaMilan.

Workshops

Anything that piques your interest, e.g. photography is a good opportunity to meet women. It’s still a numbers game. Workshops are not the best option to meet many girls in a short time-frame. Instead, get immersed in the workshop. Become self-realized. Then when you walk out the door you’re a man on his path. Now go do a few of those street approaches.

Coffee shops

Go and sit, drink a coffee, work on your laptop then branch out to the girls around you. Say hello and find commonalities. Two people being single is already a commonality.  Maybe do an instant-date or get a phone number.

While Volunteering

While I was studying at varsity, there were plenty volunteering opportunities available. This includes Habitat For Humanity, an organization that builds houses for the poor. You might even pick up some ideas for doing your own home renovation in the future. While meeting a few good-hearted cute girls. As they say: You help yourself by helping others.

Smartshops

At smartshops in places like Amsterdam you’ll meet cool hipster chicks with open minds. Explore the inner realms together by finding out which medicinal plants you both love. “Couples who trip together, stay together” – some wise man (kidding, I just made that up right now).

Sex shops

This is the place to go if you want to meet kinky sexually open minded girls in real life. Unfortunately sex shops in most cities tend to be small. But in larger cities like Paris, there are huge sex shops, spanning multiple floors. At the smaller shops, you can sometimes still meet an attractive staff member to add to your rotation. At larger shops, there’s definitely the opportunity to try your luck with kinky girls e.g. at the vibrator section.

On public transport

In many countries, you may be hesitant to use public transport. However, to meet cute girls skip taxi’s and ride-sharing apps. For example, when I was in Sao Paulo it was cheap to use ride-sharing apps. I really didn’t need to use the metro. But towards the end of my trip I tried it for fun. Then, seeing the hot Brazilian girls especially in the afternoon coming from work. I realized I threw away more chances of meeting girls in the daytime by not using the metro.

Tourist Attractions

This is the most obvious place in any city to meet tourist girls. If all else fails, even if you’re a local, go chill at your local tourist attractions. Meet a few girls and share some of your local city wisdom.

Pharmacy

I’ve gotten numbers in pharmacies, but also keep an eye open for the occasional cute hired gun. Female pharmacists are often attractive, well-educated, and health-aware, thus fit and in decent shape.

Girl walking her dog

Nice one, especially if you have your own dog as well. Both of your dogs can be the perfect excuse for you two to hang out, as your dogs can get to know and befriend each-other, as well.

Exchange tips about taking care of your animals, do late afternoon walks in parks, cuddle with your pets in front of TV. And lastly, there’s the doggy style romps in the bedroom.

Having a dog is a huge responsibility, thus if you don’t have your own dog, don’t fret. Here’s an opening line to try from Dan Bacon:

“Hey Nice Dog! It’s even cuter than its owner. Kidding, you’re beautiful too. Hi, I’m Dan…”

Art galleries

If you’re into art, art galleries are a great place to meet women. But if you’re not into weird or interesting paintings, then you won’t have as much in common with the girls you meet there. Still, its always worth taking a shot. Decide along with the girl which is the best painting in the gallery, and why.

Running errands

When you’re off to the Postal office, Bank, Laundromat (or wherever), keep your eyes open for hotties. That girl you see in line at the post office, might be your future wife or mother of your unborn children.

BDSM club

Here you’ll find the kinkiest girls. The nymphomaniacs, the horny bitches, the open minded ladies, and the free-spirited. The limitation is that you only find these clubs in large cities like Berlin. And for the best clubs, you should bring a lady-friend along, to help them with their gender-ratio.  Even then, entrance is not guaranteed. You also have to dress the part… Think leather.

SJW Meetings and Marches

Every society has their Social Justice Warriors. Don’t go to their marches to protest, what’s wrong with you? Go there to troll and pick up girls. Dunno if you’ve heard this already, but feminists are often very slutty. As they’re very keen on total sexual emancipation. Thus they want to be as free as men, who can fuck 100 girls, and be seen as studs. Of course, the two genders are unique. We are not all the same. But if you’re looking for a sexy time (instead of a relationship), these weird-ass get togethers could be a good place to go looking.

Pet Shop

Pop in, see if there’s any cute animal loving girls, or sales-ladies, around. These girls enjoy cuddling with animals. To be honest, like all women, they enjoy cuddling (point).

Underwear shop

If it’s a shop with bra’s and panties, it’ll test your comfort zone. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. As an opening line, you could say you’re looking for a gift for your niece or sister. The girl may get the drift that you’re looking for an excuse to talk to her. But she’ll appreciate your spontaneity and confidence to start a conversation.

Some underwear shops are unisex. Check out the male underwear side, then open the girls in the female section (either direct or indirect).

 

Lastly, lets look at a few places where you’re not likely to meet women:

Where you’re not likely to meet girls

1. Strictly Male Hobbies e.g. fishing, hunting, computer gamer meetups.
2. During holiday season when everyone else left your town.
3. Staying in your house the whole day.
4. In small shitty towns while traveling/living in third world countries, if you’re not attracted to the local women.
5. Being a workaholic in an all-male office, then getting home very late at night, with no time to socialize.

Thus:

• Get hobbies,
• Get out of the house,
• Get out of boring places, and
• Interact with your environment.

 

Conclusion – Where to Meet Women

Normal girls appreciate a friendly guy brightening up her day by cold approaching in a calibrated manner. Maybe also giving a complement, thus self-esteem boost. As seducers, we should be likable. Women should enjoy talking to you. To get to know someone who thinks for himself and is open-minded socially. If you’re pleasant to women, they’ll mostly be pleasant to you.

Whenever you think up excuses as to why not go outside to meet cute girls. Rather immediately go outside, get some fresh air, and accumulate a few phone numbers. Meeting women is an essential part of being a man. Women won’t come to you. It’s up to you to go outside, and go meet them.

If you need more info on how to proceed to dating the girls you’ve met this way, check out my latest e-book, Good With Women, currently only available on Kindle:

What’s your own view and recommendations on where to meet women? Post your tips, comments and questions below!

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